Sex in the Digital Age

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It has literally changed and transformed the way we do every day things.  From the complex to the simple – from the Life-saving to the time-wasting – from the major to the minuscule – for better or for worse – Technology has changed everything.

SO, why would we assume that Technology wouldn’t begin to permeate and inundate  the way we go about relationships, dating, and sex?  We have seen dating/courtship evolve:

Spoken Word (personal, face to face) –> Written Word –> Spoken Word (telephone/cell phone) –> Typed Word (email) –> Texted Word (text) –> Visual Word (Face to Screen/Skype/Video Chat)


What’s next?  ONLY Online Dating?  Virtual Reality Dates?  I do not know, but it would not surprise me.  What I do know is that for better or for worse – more and more people are interacting/pursuing/courting DIGITALLY rather than PERSONALLY.  And the effects of that could be detrimental to the way relationships are viewed/lived out in our lives.  Will we know how to share our feelings/affections if it’s not shared through a screen?  Will we be able to resolve conflict or reconcile relationships or will we just rely on “Unfriending”, “Unfollowing”, or “Blocking” them?  We need to stop and think about how we can redeem some of the ways we use technology.

“Technology in itself is not evil, it is only used as evil”

The fall of man and the spiritual darkness of our world is often seen in the use of Media, Technology, and advertising.  Twitter, Facebook, SnapChat, Instagram, SKYPE, google, and text messaging at the hands of a broken person can easily be perverted, distorted, and used as a means to a lustful/fleshly end.  Our carnal desires can be met  by the tips of our fingertips using the technology in our hands so easily.  What we don’t realize often is how easily we can get sucked in and become oblivious to the fact that we are joining in with these pleasures.  We simply scroll through and like/share that new offensive movie clip, go crazy over Magic Mike or American Pie, crave our appetite by posting our #ManCrushMonday or #WomenCrushWednesday on Instagram, or re-tweeting that offensive joke form @ShewantstheD.

It is sickening to stop and think about how numb we have become to the things that breaks our Creators heart.  SEX is EVERYWHERE – on billboards, on tv, on  our laptops and cellphones, in movies…EVERYWHERE – let us not become desensitized or numb to it.  Let us not fool ourselves by saying, “It’s no big deal.”  Let us pray for God to break our heart for what breaks His.


The Power of the “JK”

I have seen this trend played out where somehow we believe that our Digital Screw-Ups have no real-life consequences.  But, they do.  If you post a “InDirect Tweet” or “Facebook Rant” the words your choose reveal your true feelings toward someone else and in turn they represent who you are.

The other area is via text message.  I have seen and heard of guys who will “test the limits” by using text messaging.  Sample Text Message with two outcomes:


Scenario 1:
Guy:  Hey Baby, what you wearing?
Girl: A towel, I just got out of the shower
Guy: Wish I was there to dry you off… how about a pic?
Girl: What Kind of pic?

Scenario 2:
Guy: Hey Baby, what you wearing?
Girl: Ew you creep, none of your business.
Guy: JK – lol
Girl:  Oh, haha – i was like what?
Guy: Haha – I got you
**This is the same guy – with the same motives – but it takes two to tango.  But, with a simple “JK” he knows he can test his boundaries or limitation with this girl.  He knows that he will not have to suffer consequences for his actions as long as he is ready to put that JK out there.  This can not be our M.O.


If people only had your facebook profile, tweets, instagram pics, and text message history to make an assumption about who you are and what you represented.  Who would they say you were?

Let us redeem technology in our lives!  Let us use it as a Light and not add to the darkness.

“The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.  Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.”
1 Corinthians 6:13, 18-19

How do we FLEE?

But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desires of the flesh”
Galatians 5:16

I have hidden your Word in my heart that I might not sin against you.”
Psalms 119:11










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