What is Love? Baby, Don’t Hurt Me…

One Month to Live:  Love Completely

This week in our #1MTL Series – we talked about Loving Completely.  Now this isn’t a cheesy 90s love scene where we look at God, and say “You Complete Me.”   It wasn’t even a Christian love fest, where we went and confessed our love to all of our friends and apologized for the ways we wronged them…then ended with singing “Friends are friends forever” while holding hands and swaying back and forth. 

No, we got into what LOVE really is.  Love is complex, hard, messy, and takes work.  In order to understand love – we have to look at it’s many different meanings and levels.  Let’s look at the Greek words for love to give us a base:

A type of love that only gives to what satisfies its desires or fulfills its appetite.  Usually Erotic/Sexual. Selfish/Self-Seeking.

A type of love that we find amongst family and the members of it.  Most people will stick behind their family.

A type of brotherly love or friendship love.  Helps us see others needs and feel a sense or calling to help them.

The Highest form of love there is.  This is an unconditional love for others in spite of their character flaws and weaknesses.  We can only achieve this type of unselfish loving as we put the needs of others as a priority. 


How do we achieve AGAPE Love?

It has to start with the source of love: God. 

“And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.  God is love.  Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in Him.”

1 John 4:16

Much like everything else in the Christian faith – we can not do anything without God.  “Apart from Him we can do nothing” Much like it is with bearing fruit, fleeing from the enemy, entering the kingdom of heaven, etc.; It is as so with Love.  We have to know and rely on God. 

“We love, because He first loved us”

1 John 4:19

And Man, are we ever called to Love…

“Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.”

Matthew 22:37-39



This one is obvious in scripture.  In order to love completely – we MUST Love God.  All other love flows out of our love for God.


“Love your neighbor” (Matt. 22) – “Love your enemy, bless those who persecute you” (Matt 5:43-44) – “By this they will know you are my disciples, by the way you love one another” (John 13:35). 

Loving people is messy – because you won’t always get the same love back.  People will fail you, hurt you, throw your kindness back in your face.  EVERYONE will fail you except for the ONE True God.  But God’s command is clear, we must love our neighbor, enemy, the world, and one another.  Loving completely is not selective or selfish – we must love all people. 


Sometimes this is the hardest thing to do.  And many people are not loving completely, because they don’t truly love themselves.  Their identity is built upon outward appearances, hollywood standards, or a jealousy/comparison that drives them to view themselves as ugly.  Notice that Jesus says, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” What kind of love do you have for yourself? Based on that, what does your neighbor receive. 

“For you created my inmost being, you kitted me together in my mothers womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Psalm 139:14-15

You are who you are for a reason.  Your personality, looks, gifts, etc. were well thought out.  So do not try to be someone else.  “Be yourself, because everyone else is taken”  LOVE YOURSELF and who God made you to be, so that you can fully love your neighbor and bring that love back to God!


God came to give us life and give it to the fullest/in abundance (John 10:10).  Are you LOVING Life.  When you are doing that, you are loving completely.  The only way you will truly be happy is to be serving the purposes of the LIVING GOD!  When you are loving life…you will breath life and joy into other people. 

“Never be lacking in zeal, keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”

Romans 12:11-13


God has called us to completeness.  His love endures forever…in you, in me, and in the world.  Let’s be complete in His love, and the type of love he called us to. 

“We need to experience the fullness of God’s love for us in order to die to our selfish desires and give freely to others.  We HAVE to look to God first.”





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